It's a great time in history to date girls:
Today, millions of beautiful girls online are waiting for you. Just look around you: First, they are on dating websites or in online flirt communities. And here is what is even more exciting: You also literally find millions of single women on the social networks. Yes, literally millions. In fact, there are over 100 million women on MySpace. And there are another 60 million women on facebook, with those numbers growing each day by the ten thousands.
Let's be honest: That's a lot of girls! You could be the most social guy in your whole area -- and still, the number of hot women you might meet this way would totally fade in comparison.
You can actually compare flirting on dating sites with flirting on a singles party in your town. Social networking, on the other hand, would be more like meeting your dream girl through your circle of friends. And isn't that the most common way for people to get a girlfriend? Surveys have shown that 56% of people in a relationship actually met their partners through common friends or on their job. If you ask women what they think is the best way to meet a partner, 73% of them will say their social circle:
Girls expect their dream partner to show up through common friends, in social activities, on their job or at school.
MySpace and Facebook are the closest you can get to that in the online dating world. And yes, you can even find a girlfriend on Facebook, and you can also find a girlfriend on MySpace.
So how do you approach a beautiful girl on Facebook? And how do you approach an attractive woman on MySpace?
The first thing most guys will think when they stumble upon a girl's profile is: "She's so beautiful. She probably can get any man she wants. Why would she even want to talk to me?". After all, beautiful girls usually do have a long, impressive list of friends, and most of them get ten or twenty e-mails from strangers every single day -- that is, from strangers who are trying to get to know her.
That is no surprise:
Talking to a girl online doesn't require the courage you might need to approach a woman on the street. Approaching online is safe, because you spare yourself from any embarassing situation if she rejects you. Nobody will see it. In fact, if she's not interested, she probably won't even reply at all.
And because it seems so easy, even the shyest guys will give it a shot. They figure they've got nothing to lose. And in the end, 95% of the e-mails in a girl's inbox will sound like "how are you doing?", "how was your weekend?" or "would you like to chat with me?".
To make a long story short, most pick up e-mails a girl receives are dead boring. And after a week on Facebook or MySpace, a beautiful woman will have learned to spot and delete such messages in an instant. For girls on Facebook, MySpace or datig websites it's just like you and I can spot and delete spam messages without even reading their content.
So you probably wonder what to say to a girl on MySpace, or what to say to a girl on Facebook.
How do you approach girls in order to stand out?
How can you meet girls online?
And, finally, how do you get a date?
You are not the only one asking those questions. I've been struggling with them three years ago, and today I have written a book about how to date girls on MySpace and Facebook. And I want to share with you what I have learned over the years.
Dating girls is like building any other connection. There are always three steps. You could call them dating secrets, but in reality, you will find them in any social interaction.
First, you need attention. Then you need a connection. And, finally, you need commitment.
Sounds easy, doesn't it?
However, most guys will act on their first intuition. They will mix up the three steps right from the beginning when they flirt with a girl.
Just ask yourself: What is a guy doing when he starts a conversation by asking an attractive girl how her weekend has been? First, isn't that kind of a weird question, if you consider that he doesn't know her yet? And second, that is not exactly getting her attention, is it? If a guy approaches a hot girl by asking her how her weekend was, he's actually trying to build a connection. He's trying to make her share her thoughtsfeelings and experiences with him right from the start. A strategy that is most likely to fail: It's simply impossible to build a connection with somebody unless you've got their attention first.
Attention means to stand out from the crowd. It means that you need to make her recognize that you are different. It doesn't mean you have to show that you are better than the other guys. Just that something about you is different. To get her attention means to make her curious. That is to say, curious enough to make her reply.
Connection means to show her that you and her have something in common. For instance, you might have the same taste in music. You might both have similar hobbies. And you might share a common sense of humor. Humor, by the way, is the best pick up strategy anyway: If you can laugh with her, she will enjoy talking to you. And in the end, that will lay the foundation for the third step:
Commitment. That is the final stage of every flirt. At this point, she will decide that you are somebody she wants to stick around. Only now you will get her phone number, meet her in real life or get a date.
So far for the theory. But how do you apply it?
Many guys wonder how to talk to girls. When they see a beautiful girl, they simply forget who they are and become totally reactive to everything the girl does: They make their first mail a comment about something obvious from the girl's profile. When she doesn't reply instantly, they interpret it as a rejection and get defensive. And when she does reply but challenges them by being naughty,
they think she doesn't like them and start making excuses and being extra nice. The reality is, though: Whenever she replies, she is interested.
Next time you see a cutie on Facebook or on MySpace, send her the following message (without the quotes):
Subject: "I really must say..."
Body: "That is a CUTE picture! Who is she? I really like your taste."
You'll see: 8 out of 10 girls on MySpace, Facebook or dating websites will reply. This message will get their attention.
Why? Simple:
This is a message that starts out like most of the everyday mails she's receiving from other guys ("your're so cute"), but right in the second sentence, the whole meaning is turned upside down. Basically, you are saying that the picture is hot, and that's why you simply assume that it's not her. Some girls will laugh about that sudden twist, some won't, but in the end, most of them will feel challenged in some way and send you a reply.
Don't get me wrong:
Flirting is not about pick up lines. You could have the best pick up lines ever, and still never get a date and die as a virgin.
It's not enough if you know how to approach a girl. You also have to know how to talk to a girl.
It is easy to meet girls on Facebook, and it is easy to meet girls on MySpace, but you have to know how to flirt and escalate things. You need to become a master of all three steps of flirting -- attention, connection and commitment.
Ordinary dating guides or flirting tips for men won't get you any further here. They are written by editors who are married themselves and work all day in an editor's office, desperately struggeling to meet the deadline for the next issue of their magazine or to somehow fill up their homepage with content.
You can become good at flirting. This is not so much a matter of HOW MUCH you study and try, but rather of WHAT IT IS that you are studying and trying. You can put in hundreds of hours of discipline and optimism, but if you're practicing the wrong thing, you'll never see results, no matter how much you deserve them. On the other hand, if you find and do the right thing, you can become better than 80% of all the other guys out there fairly easily.
And if you want to see what I mean I invite you to read the sample chapter of my book on how to attract women on Facebook and MySpace.
The book will teach you everything you need: In it, you will learn what will make your profile attractive to girls.
You will learn all the ingredients of the perfect approach message.
You will learn what to talk about with a girl to build a connection.
In the book, you'll also find games that you can play with her when you're writing e-mails with a girl -- games that will teach you things about her that she hasn't even shared with her best friends.
Most important, you will learn how to escalate and transition from talking online to getting her phone number, talking on the phone and meeting her for the first time in real life.
To see for yourself how easy it is to see instant results you can learn more about getting dates on Facebook and MySpace on my website "TheCharmingYou". All the information there is free, including the online dating tips that I send out each week via e-mail.
You will be amazed!
And don't forget to try out the approach message you've just learned in this article.)
Your friend,
Leonard Baumgardt
P.S.: I have received many many e-mails from guys who have read my book and have had tremendous success with it. Of course, I know that it is always a risk to buy something online when you're still not sure whether it will meet your expectations or not. And because of that, I'm offering a 100%-money-back guarantee to all my readers: If you're not happy with the book, drop me an e-mail and I will send back your money. I've been doing that since I first published the book, and so far only 2% of my readers have asked for a refund -- while many many more have written me thank-you e-mails and recommended my book to their friends. That makes me really proud. And it makes me confident, that you will love the book and the results you will see after reading it.
